the benefits of a failure

I don't trust people who never got it wrong

Oct 31, 2025

We all want to have experience, until you realize that having experience means having some failures in your track record. I mean, does it really count as experience if you only played it safe and never got it wrong?

I don’t trust you if you’ve never failed before, because I know how much you grow, you learn, and you change throughout a failure, a wrong turn, a bad decision. And honestly, not failing won’t give you the optimistic personality on which you would base an entire business. Not failing just means you haven’t moved. At all.

The goal is everything, until you realize how much you’ve changed while working on it. I used to lock in the plans, the deadlines, and the milestones, praying failure won’t catch me if I just stick to those. But, at some point, you realize that progress will not happen if you don’t fail, and that same progress cannot always be measured.

Somewhere along the way, if you were blessed with some failures, you start changing even faster than the work itself. The work starts demanding that you change, and eventually, its growth will depend on it.

It’s all part of what you chose — a decision you made. And once you accept what it takes to reach places you haven’t been, you get it.

The late nights made you disciplined.

The rejections made you open-minded.

The small wins made you brave and bold.

I’m not here to say cliché quotes from my notes app like “rejection is redirection”, but I want you to get familiar with failures and how this familiarity will override the fear you have of it.

From my own failures (many, many failures in all areas of my life, really), I’ve come to realize that:

#1 failure keeps you grounded

Don’t get me wrong, I love success. But success can create a false sense of superiority that can not only get in the way of your work, but especially in your relationships (with your team, your friends, your family). It’s quite normal that a win will always be a validation of your work and what you’ve done to get there. And most of the time, it creates this illusion that nothing can beat you. That you always know what you’re doing, therefore you’re never really wrong. So, a failure can be a great reality check. Not only to remind you that you’re still human, but also to remind you that success goes beyond vanity metrics and handshakes. It’s also a great reminder that who you are goes beyond your work - so you don’t lose yourself in it.

#2 failure gives you freedom

The more you get it right, the greater the pressure to avoid any mistakes. Maybe you’ll end up trapped in a win that’s long gone, while the game has gotten a lot more complicated now. At that point, failure brings you the freedom to try something that is not guaranteed to succeed, just for the sake of testing; failure lets you experiment beyond what is expected from you.

#3 failure makes you stronger

Confidence, perseverance, and wisdom are the greatest accomplishments a failure will ever provide you with. No other experience will give you that much confidence, perseverance, and wisdom to keep going. When all you do is win, you may get comfortable in your own ways and blind to all the alternatives around you that were actually opportunities to be better. To be greater. In this way, embracing failure is a part of being ambitious, as you strive for improvement.

As you fail and grow back, you start taking up more space, not only as the work grows, but because you expand to meet it.

I guess that’s the point. To build something that builds you back.

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